By Nicole Tinkham
Close your eyes for a moment and picture yourself as a successful person. Think about what you’re doing in life, the house you live in, and the people you surround yourself with. Put yourself in that position. Don’t just imagine someone else living that life. When you think of success, what does that look like for YOU? Now open your eyes and write down the first thought that pops into your head when you think about this successful life. If you wrote down money or anything related to it, we need to talk.
So many people make the money/success connection. We often think that if someone has money, it must mean they’re successful and if they’re successful, they’re happy. But think about this. Is every poor person unhappy? Is every rich person happy? No way! The amount of money you have does not determine your worries or your happiness. Someone who has plenty of money could be working 80 hours a week in a job they feel miserable in. Someone who doesn’t have much money could be doing what they love and enjoying life to the fullest every single day. The point is, money doesn’t have anything to do with success so it’s about time you shift your thinking.
Instead of stressing out and worrying about your bills and how you seem to never have enough money, start focusing on just being happy. Do the things you love and by doing so, you will become successful and from there, the money will come. Sounds a little crazy, right? But we dare you to try it out anyway. Start looking around you and be grateful for all that you do have in your life. Remember that whatever you focus on most is what you will get more of. You can either choose more debt or abundance. Which would you rather have?
Alright, so maybe being rich can mean success. BUT our definition of rich is probably a little different than what you’re thinking. Let’s take money out of the equation altogether. There are so many other ways you can be rich in life. For example, you can be rich with love or rich with creativity or rich with family and friends. When you think of some of these things, do you think of happiness? We do! And of course you can also be rich with negative things like bills and debt as well. But like we had mentioned, your thoughts become your reality. Start focusing more on the things that make you happy and less about the things that make you unhappy. Once you start doing this, you’ll allow yourself to live a life with purpose that you feel proud of.
Another thing to watch out for is judgment! By now we know that everyone has a different idea of what success is. Don’t just assume you know what someone else is going through based on what they appear to be. Many people are really good at putting up a strong exterior when they’re actually falling apart inside. Some people may seem happy around others but go home to a miserable household. You just never know so don’t be so quick to judge others.
So when it comes down to it, success is whatever YOU make it but that definition doesn’t have to be income related. Think beyond money and more about what makes you happy. Maybe success to you is being a stay at home mom. Maybe success to you is traveling around the world. Maybe success to you is building lasting friendships. Maybe it’s getting compliments on your artwork. Whatever it is to you, it must be something that makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Take time and give this some thought. Create your own definition of success and strive to reach that level in your life.
While we may all have different views on this, we would love to hear what your own personal definition of success is. Leave a comment below with what you came up with for yourself!