By Nicole Tinkham
When it comes to creating a friend group, you have more control than you may realize. We’re surrounded by so many people in our lives; some that have a good influence on us and others who have a bad influence on us. These people come and go and it’s easy to hang out with the same people without putting much thought into it. But what if we told you that these people in your life, and more accurately the 5 people you spend the most time with, will determine your success? Would you reconsider who you allow in your circle?
When the people you choose to surround yourself with are positive, uplifting, and are people you admire and aspire to be like, a real change begins to happen in your life. You’ll start achieving more goals, dreaming bigger, becoming happier, and discovering your passions. But in order to find the best people possible for your friendships, you’ll have to do some soul searching. What we know about friendships already (that they just happen) needs to be reconsidered. Now is the time to make better choices, so we put together a list of what NOT to do when adding new friends to your life.
1. Don’t add someone just to add them
We often strive to surround ourselves with more and more people. We sometimes think that the more friends we have, the better off we are. But the opposite is actually true. It’s more beneficial to have just a few friends who inspire you and lift you up than a bunch who don’t have any kind of positive influence in your life.
Your top five people that you spend the most time with are the most important. The habits of these 5 people are the habits you’ll most likely pick up by spending time with them. Don’t fill these spots up with just anyone. Choose your friends wisely. Be patient because it may take awhile to find the perfect friends.
2. Don’t choose people who you don’t admire
There are times when it seems like all the wrong people flock to you. You may not have a lot in common with them or no real connection. Don’t just settle! Pick and choose your friends based on how much you admire them. What type of person do you want to be more like? Who do you look up to? Who’s doing the thing you would one day love to do? Remember that the more you hang out with these friends, the more you’ll pick up on their positive habits, and those habits could change your life.
3. Don’t always be the giver
The perfect relationship will be a balanced one where you’re not always the one giving. Constantly giving will drain your energy! Make sure that both people in the relationship are growing and becoming better people. There shouldn’t be one dragging the other down.
Friendships aren’t just life’s little bonuses. They can actually shape who you are. If you’re spending too much time with toxic people, you’ll have a difficult time rising up to be the person you want to be. Don’t let it happen to you! Cut ties with those toxic relationships if you have to and choose to spend your time with more people who lift you up. You’ll become a happier and more positive dreamer who actually follows through and achieves great things. So when adding new friends to your circle, keep these 3 things NOT to do in mind.