By Nicole Tinkham
Do you overthink every single little thing to the point where you can’t get anything accomplished? Fear can stop you dead in your tracks from doing just about anything in your life. If you have some big goals for the New Year, listen up! You need to let go of the past and stop worrying about the future. Live in this moment right here right now TODAY. Easier said than done, right? Don’t worry; we put together this guideline to help calm down your mind and stop worrying once and for all. Read on for how to accept the things you cannot change, be fearless of the future, get rid of your limiting beliefs, and enjoy the things you already have.
Accept the things you cannot change
Let’s face it. If something has happened in the past, there’s no going back to change it now. It’s impossible. That leaves you with two options. You can either make improvements and better the situation or just let it go. Here’s what you need to know. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just let it go. For instance, when someone else is involved you will not and cannot change that other person. Don’t even try. When it comes to you personally though, there’s always a chance to change and grow as a person. It may not fix the past but it’s a way to move forward without dwelling on past situations.
Note: Accepting the past will not just magically happen overnight. Forgiving and moving on will take time and the best thing you can do is take baby steps, moving forward a little bit each day.
Be fearless of the future
Fear is the number one thing that holds people back from going after their goals. People not only fear failure but they also fear rejection and ridicule from others. When it comes to failure think of it this way; if you aren’t taking the chance, you’re always going to be where you’re at right now. Is that what you really want? To create a better life for yourself, you will have to make a change. If you fail, you have the opportunity to start over and try something different.
When it comes to worrying about what other people think, you have to remember to think of yourself first. What do you feel in your heart is right? What were you born to do? What makes you happiest? You know yourself better than anyone else. Sometimes loved ones are only looking out for you and they don’t want to see you make a wrong decision. Take what they have to say seriously but remember that at the end of the day it’s your decision.
Get rid of your limiting belief
So many people worry about money, time, and careers. We would say those are the big three although you may have others to add to the list. One reason why you could be stressing out in these areas could be because of your limiting belief. You don’t think you’re worth more money. You seem to never have time and always have a ton of things to get done. You don’t have the skills to get a better job that you enjoy. With this mindset, you really won’t get far.
You need to look within yourself. What kind of person are you really? What incredible qualities do you possess? What are you good at? Know that there’s always room for improvement but you are already amazing just the way you are. You were born to do great things now it’s time to do them!
As with everything mentioned in this blog, your belief in yourself will take time. Lift yourself up by reading something inspirational every day, dream about your future life (and make a plan to turn it into your reality), and repeat positive affirmations to yourself daily. The more you believe in yourself the more you will achieve!
**You are good enough!**
Cherish what your life already has to offer
Stop spending your time worrying about cleaning your house, running errands, ironing your laundry, and just being this perfect person. Start paying attention to the things in your life that really matter, like your friends and family. Sometimes it feels like everything is going wrong so stop yourself for a moment and seriously think about this. Think of all the wonderful things you do have in your life and think of others who don’t have those things. You are so incredibly blessed, it’s time you start appreciating it. Think about this; would you rather be remembered by the impeccable home you’ve kept up with or the way you made others feel? Consider what your real priorities are and adjust the way you’re living your life.
When you are faced with an issue…
Ask yourself what the absolute worst thing that could happen is.
Now make a plan in case that was to actually happen. Having a plan written down for the worst case scenario will ease your mind.
Chances are you’ll realize that even the worst thing isn’t the end of the world and you’ll feel better about the situation.
Stress, worry and anxiety are all part of life but the way you handle them says a lot about who you are. These are all difficult things to overcome but once you can let go and fully enjoy what life has to offer, the little things won’t even bother you anymore. Remember to accept the things you cannot change, never fear what the future brings, realize that you are good enough, and be grateful for all the wonderful things you already have. If you focus on these four things the stress will start to melt away.