By Nicole Tinkham
We don’t know about you but the month of February has us feeling all lovey dovey! One thing we want to make very clear before we go any further – Showing love and understanding how others love is not only for romantic relationships. Valentine’s Day and love is for everyone, not just couples. Our challenge for you this Valentine ’s Day is to better understand your close friends, grow your friendship with them, and share your love with more people! You have so much to give and so many people in the world who need a little more love. We recently read an article about the 5 love languages used to better understand how to show your spouse love and strengthen your relationship. We took these 5 ideas and related them to friendships that you can use on anyone. Read on to discover how you can strengthen your FRIENDSHIPS and show that you care.
The 5 love languages you are about to read are nothing new. In fact, you can learn more about them in more detail in Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. Here’s the scoop. As you’re probably already aware, everyone communicates differently and with that everyone communicates and receives love differently. Here’s an example. If you’ve been making fun little gifts for a friend but she doesn’t respond the way you were expecting, she may not be receiving the love the way you’re giving it. She may receive love better through compliments in which case there is a disconnect with those gifts you’ve been giving her. Read on to better understand the 5 different love languages to determine which ones your closest friends can relate with most.
1. Love through words
This type of person likes hearing words of love. Give them compliments, thank them often, and praise them. Harsh words come off as super strong to them so really watch what you say. It’s so easy to slip up with your words but around this type of person, it’s extra important to be careful.
2. Love through quality time
The most valuable gift to this type of person is quality time together. So instead of sending a material gift, plan a special day together. Get crafty or go shopping! Whatever you do, make sure to give that person your undivided attention. Get focused on them and listen to what they have to say.
3. Love through gifts
Having a friend in your life who receives love through gifts can be so fun! Next time you spot something that reminds you of them, pick it up and surprise them with it. It doesn’t have to be a huge gift. They’re favorite candy bar or something small would be fine.
4. Love through a helpful hand
This type of person prefers to be given the gift of service, or a helping hand. Helping them get their house painted or with a project they’re working on goes a long way. It’s the little things that matter so even small gestures are much appreciated.
5. Love through touch
We’re sure you’ve come across both types of people; those who are huggers and those who don’t like to be touched at all. It’s crazy how different people are, isn’t it? For those who receive love best through touch, a hug or just sitting next to this person makes them feel loved.
Sometimes if you and your friend’s love languages are different, it can be difficult for you to show love to them in their language since you’re not used to it. It will take some time to get used to but use this opportunity to learn. If they love through words, keep an ear out for positive words and phrases that you hear other people saying. The more you practice it, the easier it will become and the more your friendship will strengthen and grow.
We always encourage you to spread love wherever you go and with so many people in our lives, it’s impossible to study each person’s love language. Use these 5 love languages to strengthen your friendship with those closest to you. For everyone else you come across throughout your day (friends and strangers alike) we recommend showing love in a variety of ways. Smiling and just being friendly is perfect and when you can, pay a compliment. Be aware of your attitude and what you’re sending out in the world. Always strive to make someone’s day a little better.
Have you figured out what your love language is? If you have, let us know in the comments!