By Nicole Tinkham
It’s totally normal wanting to keep your big, hairy, crazy goals to yourself. Sometimes those goals are just too huge to share with others because what if you fail? You’ll feel like a complete idiot to the rest of the world. It’s just so much safer to keep them to yourself to avoid that humiliation. You’ll also hear people recommend doing the exact opposite by sharing your goals with the world. Many people say that doing this will hold you accountable to those goals. Not wanting to let those people down actually pushes you to achieve your big goal. So what are you supposed to do? Tell people your goals or keep them to yourself? We’ll dive into this a little bit deeper in this blog as we discuss the top 3 reasons why you SHOULD NOT share your goals.
1. Don’t share your goals with the wrong people. You may not think twice about this when a certain goal pops into your head. You’re so excited about it and you just want to tell everyone what your big plans are. But beware; it’s important that you tell the right people. Go ahead and tell the people who will support you. They are the people who even if they don’t think the things you’re doing are the right choice, have your back anyway. They love you and will be a positive influence on all that you do no matter what. If you have people like that in your life you should, by all means, tell them.
The issue comes in when you tell someone who doesn’t want to see you succeed at your goals. Do not share your goals with someone who continuously puts you down or breaks your spirit. Why would you be friends with someone like that anyway? Also, don’t share your goals with those who you know will try to get you to back down from doing them. Your mother (or anyone you’re close with) for example, may not agree with what you’re doing. She loves you and supports you but maybe she also nags you and tries to steer you in a different direction every chance she gets. If this happens, be polite and continue on with your plans anyway. When you share your goals with the wrong people, you may be holding yourself back from your full potential. You may not even get started at all which is even scarier.
2. Don’t celebrate too much before you even do anything. When you announce that you’re about to do something big, like quit smoking, for example, people will be excited for you. That’s an incredible goal to improve your life. While it may feel awesome to get congratulated before you even get started, it can take away the excitement of the actual achievement. It’s all fun and games until you have to put in the work, right? Plus, how many of these people will still be there throughout your journey cheering you on? Hopefully a lot of them but you just never know. They could fall off as soon as things start to get difficult, right when you need them most.
Remember that this is your journey. The important thing is that you get started. Worry about that and that alone for now. You can celebrate along the way with every victory but don’t exhaust yourself before you start. Be clear to others that this is only the beginning.
3. Don’t pretend you’ve already achieved your goals (too much). Talking about where you see yourself in the future satisfies the need to achieve that goal in which case you may never follow through with actually achieving it. The more you talk about it, the more comfortable your mind feels with staying where you’re at and not putting in the extra work. Now I don’t 100% fully believe in this but one thing I do know for sure is that it is incredibly satisfying picturing, dreaming and talking about the life you want to live and the goals you want to achieve. It really is heavenly. The trick is not getting too comfortable and finding it in you to get to work and make it happen.
We’ve talked about why you shouldn’t tell someone else your goals and they all make sense for the most part, right? If you tell the wrong people, they could bring you down and demotivate you. If others celebrate before you even start, it takes away the excitement of achievement. And if you talk about your goals enough as if you’ve already accomplished them, you’re satisfying the mind and feel at peace with where you’re at even if it’s not your reality. But all of these things can be flipped, making telling others your goals a huge benefit for you.
Telling the right people about your goals can lift you up and take you further than ever imagined.
Having others root you on before getting started and throughout the journey can motivate you to keep pushing forward even when things get difficult.
Thinking and talking about your goals often gets you in the right mindset with a clear vision of what you want. As long as you follow through, it can help you make your dreams come to life.
As long as you do it right, telling others about your goals can actually benefit you. Just be smart about it. Tell the right people, know that starting is just the beginning, and take action on those big goals to make them happen. In the end, it’s up to you on how you handle your goals and who you tell about them. Find what works best for you. If that means keeping it to yourself, that’s totally fine. Just continuously look at and work toward those goals. You can do this. Get focused on what you want and get to work!